Liquid Mirror with Kelly LaSha

Being a woman, and having worked closely with couples, I have found that we are akin to a bud that flowers when we receive enough love, patience, nurturing, and most of all: safety. When we feel completely safe with our partner, our hearts gradually blossom and grow like a lotus. It is gradual, because a flower can’t be forced to open and if we forced it to do so, the petals would tear. Safety is equally important for man and woman to openly express love. What are the conditions that create such safety?

I know from experience that the paradigm of right and wrong immediately squelch safety. Communication laced with accusations, blame, or guilt shut down the heart into protection mode. The swords and shields go up! So, developing our skill in heart-based communication is the foundation of the fertile soil needed for our hearts to blossom. We do this by openly sharing our fears without blame, describing our needs that promote safety, and exploring together which needs are fear based, and which needs are love based. Such communication is the ultimate definition of Soul Mates. Two individuals destined to support each others’ healing, fulfilling together our reason for being.